Travel a good gauge of couple's compatibility

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Wondering if he’s the one? Take a trip — it could reveal big trouble in paradise. Travellers are sure to unpack the truth when road-testing their relationship.

"Travel offers one of the best crash courses in compatibility. There is no better insight into a person’s temperament or disposition than to spend 24/7 with them in an unfamiliar place," says Ashley Howe, relationship expert.

Baggage gets unpacked immediately.

"You can learn if the new relationship has legs in three days, when otherwise it may take you a few months of Saturday dates to figure out," says Howe.

Psychotherapist Kimberly Moffit agrees: "Travelling with a new partner can be blissful and exciting, but it can also be awkward, exhausting, and horrifying if we uncover a side of our partner that we’ve never seen before — think Jekyll and Hyde."

Worst case scenario: Possible break up during or after the vacation.

"Travel reveals a lot of things: Habits, hygiene, sleeping patterns, moodiness, general level of activity, introvert/extrovert tendencies, etc.," adds Moffit, relationship expert for

A new survey by reveals 12% of respondents admit "the trip was so bad I wanted to leave early" and 4% actually did leave early!

And although nearly half of relationships were better after taking a vacation for survey respondents, worries abound. Boredom and bathroom sharing are top fears, according to the survey.

"Women are worried about bathrooms because it’s likely they’re still in the lust phase of the relationship. If their partner hears them doing a No. 2, or god forbid, hears the results of food poisoning, it can be embarrassing and less sexy," Moffit says.

"Men are worried about eating every meal together, and spending every waking moment together — what will happen when the conversation slows down."

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Men’s top travel concerns: Being bored with each other, arguing, snoring

Women’s top travel concerns: Sharing a room and washroom, being bored, arguing

Toronto-based Moffit advises taking time before taking off. Get to know one another and find out new information. Taking a vacation together is ideal when you’re sure you want to take things to the next level.

"It’s very similar to meeting the parents — it can be amazing yet stressful, and is only worth the risk if you’re invested in the relationship."

But, reveals some travellers are in a hurry. Men would hit the road sooner than women — 53% of women wait at least six months to take a joint vacation, compared to 32% of men. A full quarter of men would travel with a new partner after two to three months, and 9% would do it right away.

Moffit recommends making a first trip novel for both partners by going somewhere they’ve never been before.

Top tips – Don’t pack it in! Just pack right, with tips from Kimberly Moffit

Camera to make all kinds of new memories.

Suntan lotion for outdoor treks.

Some lingerie and sexy outfits.

Don’t bring along:

Too much work

Books or magazines as they will prevent you from getting to know each other

iPod — a sure instant communication blocker

"Research shows that couples who engage in novel activities are shown to create a stronger bond while engaging in these new activities."

While a trip can be a crucial step in relationship development, Howe adds that it’s a great way to inject novelty and excitement into a longer term relationship, too. Not only do new adventure experiences increase the sense of connection and create unique experiences and memories, reports that 63% of Canadians confess travel increases the likelihood of sex.