Norwich resident Carolyn de Wit remembered as a selfless mother and wife

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She loved to cook and made gourmet meals, but often wouldn’t eat dinner herself until 10 or 11 p.m.

That’s what Benjamin de Wit will remember most about his wife Carolyn – her selflessness and the way she took care of everyone else first.

“She was one person with a heart of gold. You could especially see that when she was with her kids,” Benjamin de Wit said. “That just poured out of her, and made me fall in love with her.”

Carolyn de Wit was a loving wife, friend and mother of three children under 10.

“She lit up the room and she talked to everyone,” her husband said.

He first met Carolyn when they both worked at Woodstock’s Quality Inn.

“Just because of who she is and how bubbly she is, I wanted to get to know her more. We just started hanging out,” he said.

“There was no doubt in my mind that she was the one for me. It’s been better every day. She would say that, ‘I love you more each and every day.’”

The 32-year-old woman was found dead at the restaurant where she worked in Norwich on Jan. 25. Another Norwich resident, 33-year-old William Knapp, was charged with criminal negligence causing death and trafficking Fentanyl as a result of her death.

Benjamin asked for prayers and love from the community.

Many in Norwich and Woodstock, where Carolyn was born, will miss her friendly, bubbly nature.

“You would notice if she came into a room," Benjamin said.

Carolyn was a creative soul, teaching gymnastics to kids for seven years. She was handy with the craft supplies, too, Benjamin said.

“Whenever there was a birthday present for anyone, you wouldn’t have any doubt who made that because it had little things all over it, little bows, little sparkles or whatever. She would dress everything up to a T,” he said.

That creativity also spilled over into her cooking.

“She made amazing meals. It was always 5-star restaurant quality if she made something, and she’d set it all up nice. She would spend hours in that kitchen,” her husband said.

But her own plate would sit cold until she had taken care of the kids, Benjamin said.

“They always knew that they were first. She put them above everything,” he said.

Asked what he would miss the most about his wife, Benjamin didn’t hesitate.

“Her laugh, her laugh. She just had a particular laugh,” he said with emotion in his voice.

“She was so happy and joyful no matter what.”